So earlier this year im gonna say spring , i am sat in my back garden in sunshine , bbq going family around all laughin and joking having fun . Guess what i am sat in the garden but im not there , i am thinkin about all the same shit in work i was thinkin about last nite yesterday last week , last month etc . What i hadnt done , how it was too much , i didnt have any support or team to delegate to , i got imortant deadlines building up etc , you get the picture ( now i am a bit further along my personal development journey i realise this is called , not being present in the moment ) .
So next thing a little piece of burger pops into my windpipe – bang cannot breathe in or out , literally fightin for breath/ life , obviously i overcame this or i wouldnt be writin this . Guess what i vowed there an then i am not honna worry about work ever again lifes too short .
Great theory and definitely gave me a certain level of i dont give a f**k for a few weeks then my next set of deadlines rolled round and my boss had his usual unsympathetic attitude to the issues out of my control being my responsibility – back to square 1 – NO not at all i am at that point what i know call consciously incompetent – i knew i had to get strategies and mechanisms to deal with managing my emotions to avoid being overwhelmed / helpless , once you accept that the way you are doing things can be better and you dont have to study psychology for 10 years to get better at coping / thriving , you just gotta open your eyes and ears and start ACTIVELY seeking out help .
But what help, were to look ?
I can tell you there is a lot of stuff – websites , podcasts , apps , blogs , videos etc etc . A lot i found didnt relate to me , not that they were no good they just didnt hit a note in my head . So i will share in following posts the what and how which worked for me .
I will begin with a video that i watched shortly after the burger choking incident that at that time made big sense to me ( note the speaker was involved primarily in sport so his talk can seem sport specific , its not the valid points can be applied across family life , life , business , relationships etc
Mr Trevor Moawad on the tom bilyeu impact theory series on youtube ( i will add a link as soon as i master how to improve wensite )
